We all feel anger from time to time; we are normally upset but not out of control. We continue to act rashly during and after the incident. Anger is part of how we protect ourselves. It is part of the adrenaline fight or flight response and triggers, not only changes in our emotions, but also physical changes.
There are many circumstances or reasons that can make us angry, often things that we can have little or no control over. Most of the time we are able to recall times during our lives that we have been angry and we can identify the causes. Problems arise when we feel powerless with regards to our anger.
Talking about our anger can feel embarrassing, and can stir up uncomfortable feelings about ourselves. Therapy offers you the space to express all these difficult feelings and experiences to someone who is not going to judge you. A therapist will listen to you and respect you and your opinions.
Therapy can help individuals feel in control of their anger. Therapy can help to increase our self-awareness, which in turn can aid in identifying the situations and warning signs that can trigger your anger. Once the individual has identified these, it is about learning new ways in which you can deal with the emotions.
Therapy can also help individuals explore and understand why the anger got out of control in the first place. Reasons could be low self-esteem, self-doubt, unrealistic expectations, poor coping skills or being overly emotional about ordinary things. By identifying the triggers and exploring new ways in which to manage these, therapy can help individuals control their anger rather than let their anger control them.